As thanksgiving rapidly approaches with hanukkah and christmas nipping at that turkey's heels, I have to take pause and look at the real things to be thankful for.
As an activist and public speaker, I have always been of the mind that the more open you are the better. Better to be out and deal with the occasional argument/awkward discussion with a relative than to live in secrecy. I want to reiterate that this is MY belief--I would never presume to tell another person what is the best choice regarding non-mongamy and being out with family, co-workers, etc. Having said that, my experience has shown that undue stress and anxiety are often presented to me by folks who for one reason or another are hiding who they are from the people near to them.
For all the ways that I complain about my family and grumble my way through thanksgiving (which for the record I still believe is Imperialistic brainwashing at it's best. Let's just call it what it really is, 'Genocide celebrations' and stop pretending). But I digress... The fact of the matter is that I am polyamourous and living with my two partners, yet my mother and brother (and my partner's parents, sister and 2 kids) are all coming to our home this weekend to break bread.
For those of you out there who worry about all the bad that can come from letting people in and showing them who you really are, remember that you are also robbing them of the opportunity to embrace you and accept you.
Have a great holiday if you can manage it and shop local if you're into the black Friday thing (down with corporate America)! etc, etc.